Choosing to divorce is a big decision. It is one that some people ruminate on for months, if not years. In some cases, despite being fully emotionally ready to divorce, individuals cannot move forward with officially ending their marriage. What is it that holds people back? Our team at Lokken & Putnam, P.C. discusses some of the most common fears people have about getting divorced and how to combat them in your journey to a brighter future.
Loneliness
This is one of the main things that people fear about getting divorced, especially if they have been in their relationship for numerous years or even decades. It is a big transition to go from sharing all aspects of life with someone to being separate and living alone. However, it can also be one of the best and most freeing parts of divorce. This alone time will help you get back in touch with yourself as an individual, prepare for the future that you want, and prioritize your happiness.
Children
Spouses who share children are especially hesitant to divorce, as there are other young lives involved in the split. Therefore, parents may be scared to divorce and hurt their children in the process. However, this should not be a reason to hold back. In many cases, children remaining in a two-parent household with unhappy or toxic parents is more harmful than growing up with two separate households with separated but happy and attentive parents.
Harm to Reputation
Even though divorce is so common, many people fear the repercussions a divorce will have on their reputations. Unfortunately, some still view divorce as a failure. Individuals may not be ready to face judgment or scolding for ending their marriage. However, you should never remain in an unhappy marriage to please or appease others. Getting divorced is not a failure, and it is an experience that many adults have gone through. People grow and change, and sometimes that pushes spouses apart.
Financial Ramifications
Many married couples enjoy dual-income lifestyles. However, a divorce ultimately forces each person to be responsible for their own finances. This can be especially stressful if one parent was unemployed, a stay-at-home parent, worked part-time, or if there was a salary discrepancy to begin with. It can be stressful to adjust to a lower income lifestyle, but spousal support can aid you as you transition to become self-sufficient and secure.
Regret
Others are scared to get a divorce because they worry that once they are officially single, they will have regrets. The best way to avoid this outcome is to test the waters with a legal separation before going through an official divorce. This way, you are able to see what it would be like to live alone as a single person before legally ending your marriage. If you feel happier during your separation, you can be confident that divorce is the right choice. If you miss your partner and realize you want to continue your relationship, you are spared the difficulty of a divorce.
Fear of their Spouse
Unfortunately, some marriages involve abuse. Individuals may feel unable to get a divorce or leave their spouse because they fear their spouse will harm them in some way. If you are fearful of this, reach out to our attorneys today. We want to help you safely leave your marriage.
Salt Lake City Divorce Attorneys
The end of the year often brings about a lot of reflection. For some, this reflection makes it clear that it’s time for a divorce. If you wish to start the divorce process now or in the new year, our team at Lokken & Putnam, P.C. can help you get started. Reach out today to learn more about your next steps.
