Even for people who have been contemplating divorce for years, it can be hard to officially start the process. Many people have looming fears that they will regret getting a divorce. Unfortunately, the procrastination to end the marriage can lead to many more months or years of unhappiness.
If you have been thinking about whether or not divorce is right for you and your spouse, read the list below to see if you relate.
1. You don’t spend time together
While your relationship isn’t expected to be in the honeymoon phase forever, it is important that you and your spouse still want to spend quality time together. If you find yourself enjoying your alone time far more than your time with your partner, it could be a sign of deeper relationship problems.
2. You don’t communicate
Like spending time together, you and your spouse should want to talk. Ask yourself why you aren’t talking as much as you used to.
Is it because:
- You don’t have much in common?
- You aren’t comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings?
- You find that talking leads to fighting?
Of course, there will be many days throughout a marriage where spouses don’t talk as much. However, if silence becomes the norm, it’s important to figure out why.
3. Lack of intimacy
Intimacy is an important part of a healthy marriage. When intimacy is lacking, it can hurt the marriage as a whole. In some cases, spouses report that a lack of intimacy in the marriage is what led them to infidelity. It can be uncomfortable to talk about this issue if you’re experiencing it, but it is important to get to the root of the problem and determine if there is a solution.
4. You’re always fighting
Life is stressful, but your marriage shouldn’t have to be. If you find that every time you interact it turns into an argument, you may walk on eggshells around your spouse. This isn’t a healthy environment for anyone involved.
Once an extramarital affair has happened, it can be extremely difficult to build back trust. This is especially true if the above factors were already present in the marriage. If infidelity has occurred and caused permanent damage to your marriage, it may be time for a divorce.
Your Next Steps
Even if you are still in the beginning stage of contemplating divorce, it’s a good idea to speak with a divorce attorney. At Lokken & Putnam, P.C., we can help you understand your options and what you can expect during the divorce process. This can help you decide if divorce is the right choice for you. Contact us today to schedule a confidential consultation.